Tuesday, January 22, 2008

Dear Rude and Judgemental People

I think I've had an epiphany. I can be judgemental and what I've come to realize now, quite rude. I've done it behind people's backs and I guess you could call it gossip. And not good gossip.

I've recently seen what it actually looks like and it's ugly and I'm ashamed to have ever said some things I've said. Who am I to judge what someone else is doing with their life? If that's the best they can do, good for them! And no one's job is as easy as it looks. No one is better than anyone else. If you think you are better than someone then you are dead wrong. Everyone has their own strengths, you probably just don't know them very well.

The reason I have come to this realization is because I have witnessed the shit talking and judgement and rudeness coming from someone else aimed at someone and it was ugly. These people are so judgemental of this one girl because they THINK they are better than she is because they have a college degree, and because she cuts hair for a living and because she is young and not really into politics and world affairs. Because she is young and doesn't understand priorities and may be a little airheadded. But you know what? Who cares if she is all of those things. This world takes all people.

My grandmother Mel used to tell me that if everyone in the world was the same it would be a pretty boring place to live. What if everyone drove a white car? What if everyone liked the same genre of movies or music? The great thing about this country we live in is that everyone is free to be different. If you want to watch Access Hollywood, read In Touch magazine and listen to funny, mindless radio shows, that's your prerogative. If you want to surround yourself with politics, NPR radio and the New York Times, that doesn't mean you're better than the person who likes celebrity gossip. It takes all kinds of people to make up this country. You are not better than ANYONE, just different strokes for different folks.

Did it ever occur to you that there are people with "better" jobs than you or who are "smarter" than you that are looking down on you? There's always someone that has come before and done it before and seen it all before. Just because you're in your 40's and these people you talk about are barely 20...that's comparing apples and oranges. They don't care about politics and money because their world is different from yours. I highly doubt you came out of the womb caring about politics and the dow jones. They're young, let them be frivilous and self-obsessed. THey deserve to have a childhood and be young.

Be nice to people! What a concept, right? Do you remember nice? And don't be nice to people because it may bite you in the ass someday. Be nice because it's the right thing to do. Your one smile or one nice deed or even one less rude thing to say might just change someone's whole day which in turn might change another's day.

Pay it forward.

And how would you feel if the person you call "brainiac" and you talk down to heard what you were saying? Would you even feel bad? Or how would you feel if someone who is "above" you said rude things about you? Maybe they do behind your back but you're too high and mighty to realize you aren't "all that". Maybe they say that you're stuck up. Maybe they say you are a know-it-all. Do NOT think you demand respect because you are so "Great" because it goes both ways. You have to give respect to get it.

Just because you are older and have a "more respectful job title" (as you would say), doesn't mean you have the authority to pass judgement on someone you think is below you. As people used to say, "Who died and left you in charge?"

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