Monday, January 07, 2008
I just got a call from one of my good friends explaining to me that his wife of a little over three months just left him.
Let that sink in for a moment.....
Three months. End of September they were married and over the holidays she called it quits. The reason is too painful for him to talk about right now but the actual details don't really matter. The fact is that he's in about 1000 peices right now and I have NO idea how he's functioning. I would be dead. My heart would have shattered and I would be dead.
My guess is she got scared. Looking back now, there were a few signs that they were both having a few doubts. Yes, maybe the doubts were warranted and maybe they shouldn't have gotten married. But the fact is they ignored the doubts and got married. Now, if the doubts are still there, that's what counseling is for. It's been three months for christ sake, you can't just call it quits. The damn wedding isn't even paid off yet!
She's one of those girls who think a marriage is fun----scratch that, a WEDDING is fun. She probably thought all about her wedding and not much of the marriage that followed. Afterall, that's gotta be easy, right? He's one of those people who couldn't care less about the wedding...he just wanted to be with her.
A marriage and the vows are serious whether some people take it seriously or not. "It's for better or worse", not "until the road gets rocky." Marriage is about two people against the world, being each others partner. You're supposed to take things on together, you're there for each other, not against each other.
Don't get me wrong, there are plently of marriages that break up for REAL reasons. THis isn't about those, this is about my friend and his bitch of a soon-to-be-ex-wife.
Shame on you for hurting him. Shame on you for hurting a man who wouldn't even hurt a fly. Shame on you for hurting the man who would've given his life for you, a man who treated you like a princess, a man who treated you better than any man ever had, a man who was so hopelessly in love with you he overlooked your selfishness and spoildness and bitchiness. Shame on you for not working on it and just leaving him high and dry; for only caring about yourself and not your HUSBAND as well.