Heath Ledger Dead...oh my gosh!!!!

I just found out that Heath Ledger is dead. I am in shock. I am literally in absolute shock. Mostly because I can't believe it. It's always different when a huge star dies than when someone not as well known dies.

I'm partly in shock because I just said to Steve LAST NIGHT that celebrities die in 3 and that means one more celebrity was going to die. Little did I know I was right! Oh my gosh!

Last week it was Merv Griffin, Brad Renfroe and Georgia Frontiere, the St. Louis Ram's owner. This week it was Sam the Butcher from The Brady Bunch and Suzanne Pleshette from The Bob Newhart Show. That's only five. I told Steve celebrities die in 3's so one more person will die. And apparently that person was Heath Ledger.

Random details are coming in via TMZ.com. So far what they know is:

He was found dead in an apartment, originally reported as being owned by Mary-Kate Olsen but apparently that's untrue, in his bedroom. He was face down on the floor with prescription pills strewn about on the bed. There is no implication of foul play and are so far ruling it accidental. A source close to Ledger told TMZ he had a substance abuse problem for the last year or so and was NOT in rehab.

He was a WONDERFUL actor. He was in The Patriot, Brokeback Mountain, and 10 Things I Hate About You. He was recently The Joker in the yet-to-be-released new Batman movie The Dark Knight. He was most recently working on a movie, The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus. It was supposed to be released sometime next year but no word yet on what will happen now.

He has a two-year-old daughter, Matilda, with ex-fiancee Michelle Williams. The couple broke up in October 2007 unexpectedly after two years together.

Dear Rude and Judgemental People

I think I've had an epiphany. I can be judgemental and what I've come to realize now, quite rude. I've done it behind people's backs and I guess you could call it gossip. And not good gossip.

I've recently seen what it actually looks like and it's ugly and I'm ashamed to have ever said some things I've said. Who am I to judge what someone else is doing with their life? If that's the best they can do, good for them! And no one's job is as easy as it looks. No one is better than anyone else. If you think you are better than someone then you are dead wrong. Everyone has their own strengths, you probably just don't know them very well.

The reason I have come to this realization is because I have witnessed the shit talking and judgement and rudeness coming from someone else aimed at someone and it was ugly. These people are so judgemental of this one girl because they THINK they are better than she is because they have a college degree, and because she cuts hair for a living and because she is young and not really into politics and world affairs. Because she is young and doesn't understand priorities and may be a little airheadded. But you know what? Who cares if she is all of those things. This world takes all people.

My grandmother Mel used to tell me that if everyone in the world was the same it would be a pretty boring place to live. What if everyone drove a white car? What if everyone liked the same genre of movies or music? The great thing about this country we live in is that everyone is free to be different. If you want to watch Access Hollywood, read In Touch magazine and listen to funny, mindless radio shows, that's your prerogative. If you want to surround yourself with politics, NPR radio and the New York Times, that doesn't mean you're better than the person who likes celebrity gossip. It takes all kinds of people to make up this country. You are not better than ANYONE, just different strokes for different folks.

Did it ever occur to you that there are people with "better" jobs than you or who are "smarter" than you that are looking down on you? There's always someone that has come before and done it before and seen it all before. Just because you're in your 40's and these people you talk about are barely 20...that's comparing apples and oranges. They don't care about politics and money because their world is different from yours. I highly doubt you came out of the womb caring about politics and the dow jones. They're young, let them be frivilous and self-obsessed. THey deserve to have a childhood and be young.

Be nice to people! What a concept, right? Do you remember nice? And don't be nice to people because it may bite you in the ass someday. Be nice because it's the right thing to do. Your one smile or one nice deed or even one less rude thing to say might just change someone's whole day which in turn might change another's day.

Pay it forward.

And how would you feel if the person you call "brainiac" and you talk down to heard what you were saying? Would you even feel bad? Or how would you feel if someone who is "above" you said rude things about you? Maybe they do behind your back but you're too high and mighty to realize you aren't "all that". Maybe they say that you're stuck up. Maybe they say you are a know-it-all. Do NOT think you demand respect because you are so "Great" because it goes both ways. You have to give respect to get it.

Just because you are older and have a "more respectful job title" (as you would say), doesn't mean you have the authority to pass judgement on someone you think is below you. As people used to say, "Who died and left you in charge?"

Random Observation

While I was riding to work today I looked over at a 4Runner that was being driven by a man eating cereal out of a bowl. I thought that was odd. With my 90 minute drive to work every morning and every evening I see a lot of strange things. This is the first time I've ever seen someone actually eating cereal out of a ceramic bowl with a regular spoon like he's sitting at his kitchen table.

So angry!

No wonder I don't trust people. How many times do I have to be deceived before I stop ignoring it? How bad will the deception get before it blows up and I wish I would've said or done something sooner. Or is it already worse than I thought?

Is the friendship good enough to keep going or should I cut my losses and all I've invested and run? Are these things I find out worth throwing it all away?

I can't confront this person because I'm not supposed to know what I know. And even if I did confront them, they would deny, deny, deny because they've done that before. Except before I just pretended they were telling the truth so things would go back to being easy.

Maybe it's my fault for not putting a stop to it sooner and letting it go on.

Save a Horse, Ride a Cowboy

That's what Jessica Simpson is thinking! She's riding her Cowboy, Tony Romo, and Cowboy fans are blaming her for the fact that Tony Romo has had a few bad (yet important) games since their relationship became public. Some newspapers are coining her "Yoko Romo". HA! I think that's brilliant!

However, I would like to say it's not Jessica Simpson that's making Romo suck it up lately. It's the fact that he's still a young QB and he starts to freak out under pressure. Remember last years first round game? He bobbled the snap on what WOULD have been a game winning field goal. This year he can't seem to make good decisions on the field during the big game and his offensive line couldn't block for him if their lives depended on it. PLUS Romo isn't a very mobile QB. He doesn't like leaving the pocket and therefore gets sacked when there's no blocking.

I'm not a fan of Jessica Simpson's. I think she wasted her REAL talent of singing and decided she was too famous to be with her husband, Nick Lachey. She will do anything to be in the spotlight, even if it cost her a marriage. I think she has NO idea who she is and needs a man to validate what she is. HOWEVER, I don't blame her for the Cowboy's losses. Romo is a big boy.

Romo, on the other hand, blames everybody else for his losses. During a press conference after their loss this past weekend Romo was saying how nothing went their way that night. They had several 90+ yard drives, the wind was blowing, they got bad calls, etc. etc. Maybe he should just say the Giants were a better team that night and stop blaming everyone else for his loss.

THEN, Terrell Owens starts crying when people start to blame Romo for the loss. He says, "That's my teammate. That's my quarterback," as he's crying. GIVE ME A BREAK!! TO has never had any problems throwing his teammates under a bus for...well pretty much ANY reason. Give me a freakin' break.

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

I just got a call from one of my good friends explaining to me that his wife of a little over three months just left him.

Let that sink in for a moment.....

Three months. End of September they were married and over the holidays she called it quits. The reason is too painful for him to talk about right now but the actual details don't really matter. The fact is that he's in about 1000 peices right now and I have NO idea how he's functioning. I would be dead. My heart would have shattered and I would be dead.

My guess is she got scared. Looking back now, there were a few signs that they were both having a few doubts. Yes, maybe the doubts were warranted and maybe they shouldn't have gotten married. But the fact is they ignored the doubts and got married. Now, if the doubts are still there, that's what counseling is for. It's been three months for christ sake, you can't just call it quits. The damn wedding isn't even paid off yet!

She's one of those girls who think a marriage is fun----scratch that, a WEDDING is fun. She probably thought all about her wedding and not much of the marriage that followed. Afterall, that's gotta be easy, right? He's one of those people who couldn't care less about the wedding...he just wanted to be with her.

A marriage and the vows are serious whether some people take it seriously or not. "It's for better or worse", not "until the road gets rocky." Marriage is about two people against the world, being each others partner. You're supposed to take things on together, you're there for each other, not against each other.

Don't get me wrong, there are plently of marriages that break up for REAL reasons. THis isn't about those, this is about my friend and his bitch of a soon-to-be-ex-wife.

Shame on you for hurting him. Shame on you for hurting a man who wouldn't even hurt a fly. Shame on you for hurting the man who would've given his life for you, a man who treated you like a princess, a man who treated you better than any man ever had, a man who was so hopelessly in love with you he overlooked your selfishness and spoildness and bitchiness. Shame on you for not working on it and just leaving him high and dry; for only caring about yourself and not your HUSBAND as well.

Office Pet Peeve

The Correct Way to Use a Shredder:

Put a few pieces of paper at a time into the shredder. When it starts to get full, either empty it or find someone to empty it so it doesn't get jammed.

My Office's Way to Use a Shredder:

Cram 75 pieces of paper at a time in the top of the shredder.

Get Katy when it gets jammed.

When it starts to get full, continute jamming paper into the top until it's stuck and will neither go forward or backward.

Get Katy when it gets jammed.